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Don't Assume That People Just Know Your Gender! by TheArtFrog Don't Assume That People Just Know Your Gender! by TheArtFrog
I'm probably going to get hateful comments for this, but someone has to say it...

People aren't going to know if you have a gender that doesn't match your biological sex just by looking. Don't get sh*tty with people if they get your gender wrong, because they have absolutely no way of knowing what your gender is and that isn't their fault.

If you look like a woman, people will think you're a woman. If you look like a man, people are going to think you're a man. It doesn't matter what you identify as, your gender identity isn't visible in the same way your appearance is. People can't read minds.
The simple fact is that if your gender identity doesn't match your appearance, then people will think you're what your appearance is. 

If you honestly get offended by someone, for example, calling you a woman if you look like a woman, for goodness sake just grow up. Politely correct them and move on.
But don't throw a hissy fit because they couldn't guess. Quite frankly that is a pretty damned stupid thing to do.

However, if people get your gender wrong on purpose even after you've corrected them, then yeah, that's a pretty shitty thing to do and you should probably ignore them if they do it too much.

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And also, there are not 200+ genders. People are creating many subdivisions of already existing genders, and this trend of neo-pronouns and made up genders is harmful to language and communication because no-one can be expected to learn 200 genders, half of which are probably nothing to do with gender anyway.

Things like bloomgender (A gender where one identifies as a flower), preciogender (A gender which feels special and precious to you), aethergender (A gender that feels very wide, commanding, breathtaking and powerful) are ridiculous and no-one should be expected to use or have to learn such made up 'genders'. They are not genders. Gender is what sex one identifies as, and can be different to one's biological sex. Not how special it makes them feel or it's relation to flowers or dogs or robots or other such nonsense.

And if we have to learn hundreds of made up 'genders' and all their pronouns, then it defeats the entire point of language or communication. 
How on earth is anyone supposed to learn or remember all of these without missing some and possibly offending someone? It's simply ridiculous. 

There really is only male, female, intersex, and arguably agender, some non-binary genders and some forms of genderfluidity.
 The rest can be subcategories of these already existing genders, but ultimately they are just variants of those genders. Not new ones.
Being trans isn't technically a gender as it merely means that your gender is the opposite of your biological sex, so while it is a gender identity, strictly speaking it isn't actually a gender.

If I have missed out any genders, then I apologise, but my point is that neo-genders aren't going to be taken seriously and we shouldn't be expected to take them seriously either. If you identify as a flower, that is not a gender.
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1-800-YOU-WISH Featured By Owner Edited 6 days ago  New Deviant Hobbyist Digital Artist
i get referred to as a boy a lot for the way i act, and tbh im a-ok with it
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner 6 days ago  Student General Artist
:thumbsup:
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burmawaffle Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2017
it's really confusing with all these genders and sexualities....
i think that for sexuality, you're either cis or something else (too many to list..)
and for gender
he, she, they, or something else (besides neo and tumblr pronouns, kind of transphobic..)
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017
A couple of times people thought I was female because of my nick. . .
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017  Student General Artist
I see.
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ShyFoxSV Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
True. TBH, accidental misgendering is not much a problem compared to jerks who will intentionally harass and misgender you based on your identity. I hope I won't get too many of them once I transition.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017  Student General Artist
People who intentionally misgender others are a**holes. It's still within their freedom of speech, people can call each other whatever they'd like, but they should know that their words aren't without consequence.
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ShyFoxSV Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, people might want to develop a strong vocabulary to reply to those.
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DragonStrider Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Meanwhile nuclear powerplant in France almost went into meltdown, yet we still care about gender sensitivity? Has modern human civilization sunk so low?
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:icongraeystone:
Graeystone Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017
Heck, that one plant in Japan is still leaking radiation like a shotgun wound to the gut.
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:icondragonstrider:
DragonStrider Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah and we all seem to have forgotten about it. Not even making shitty support art anymore.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 21, 2017  Student General Artist
www.environews.tv/world-news/f…

It's still important.. but no-one seems to care anymore. :shrug:

It would seem that global issues are subject to a vacuous and superficial fashion world of their own.
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2017
There is an episode of South Park about that kind of thing. Today's cause is not tomorrow's cause. In the show its about how cancer is the new 'health concern' over AIDS/HIV.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2017  Student General Artist
IKR?

Even weirder is that I found out about it thanks to Australian news. :P www.news.com.au/world/europe/f…
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Nutty-Nutzis Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2017  Student General Artist
Just recently I watched a video that mentioned a few misconceptions about non-binary people, one of them being "non-binary people look androgynous". There were 3 non-binary people speaking in the video, one of them looked like a typical man, and with a beard too.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2017  Student General Artist
I don't think you can tell just from looking, unless they happen to be wearing one of those rubber bracelets that says "non-binary" on it. :P
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017
Once upon a time a Rubber Bracelet either meant Hospital Patient or Asylum Patient. . .
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017  Student General Artist
XD True... although weren't those just plastic with holes in them? 
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2017
There was a South Park episode about 'Causes and Bracelets'. . .
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2017  Student General Artist
:D I saw!
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Lamalill Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
i've been called a male online a lot. people irl have even told me i seem really guyish.
i don't indentify with a gender. i don't feel like i fit the label "woman", but idc what pronouns i'm given
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2017  Student General Artist
I see. :)
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PKNerd Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I find accidental misgendering totally fine, especially since you can't blame the person for not knowing in the first place. I mean, how can someone knows that you identify as a different gender from first glance?

Admittedly I do agree on what you said about genders, especially the subcategory part. Non-binary is totally fine in my opinion, but there's no way I can take them seriously if if they're bloomgender or something ridiculous XD
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2017  Student General Artist
:nod: Exactly!
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YokoKinawa Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2017
Having boobs, wearing girly dresses, make up, long pretty hair....

-Hey woman!...

-How do you dare to assume my gender??...

-I don't know... maybe becuase you look like one??....


Yeah... I'm totally agree with this stamp!... you have a good argument....
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2017  Student General Artist
:)
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TransversaI Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
BLESS THIS STAMP. even though I'm athiest

Gonna be real here, if I see somebody walking down the street and they look feminine, I'll assume their a she. I can't automatically KNOW that their X gender. If I get it wrong, they can say "Hey, I'm actually X, not Y." instead of accusing me of being transphobic.  I'm a man, "cis-male scum" as the internet puts it, and people think I'm female online since I use emojis like ";w;" and type in a feminine manner. I simply say "I have a penis." and bam, it's over.

Another thing that pisses me off is when your on social media and the person doesn't state if their male, female, trans, a poptart, or what the fuck ever kids are these days. Like, how am I in the wrong for calling you a she, when you don't say "I use male pronouns". If you make no attempt to show what you are, I'll default assume your a girl. Mainly because a lot of people on these sites are usually girls.

Also, neo-pronouns like sprout, bun, fae, etc. are ridiculous. Their English-centric, first of all. How can somebody who speaks Creole or Arabic use those terms? Oh wait. They can't. It's also hard for people learning the English language, since they think all they need to say is He/She/They, but now we got people saying their a Fae. And it's hard to remember. How can we use them in the right order? Fae went to Walmart? Faer not here right now?

Fuck no, I refuse to change my native language to conform to your bull-shit gender.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2017  Student General Artist
:thumbsup: I've got another stamp you'd probably like:  Controversial View: On Made Up Genders by TheArtFrog
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wingedoracle Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2016
I've been called a male online a lot. As a cis girl, I don't mind. I only tell them that I'm a girl, and then everything's okay.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2016  Student General Artist
:nod: :)
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Polarized-Wolf Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I can see people thinking I'm male at first as I am a tomboy, but yes, I'm definitely female and it's fine if people assume I'm male.. As long as they aren't insisting that I'm male, we're great. :)
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2016  Student General Artist
:D
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PhoenixOfWildfires Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I think that more people would be upset by being asked what their gender is than by someone assuming it
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Argodeon Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Why? :lol:
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PhoenixOfWildfires Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
The person being asked might think that the person asking them thought that they were ugly, or something like that.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Student General Artist
Probably so.
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Inky-Shade Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
lel/lele/lelest

RESPECT MAH PRONOUNS!!!!11!!!
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Argodeon Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:lol:
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DarkVikingMistress Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Student Writer
Exactly, you are going to have things assumed about you by those who don't know you...it's a natrual human instinct. To try and make people stop assuming things like gender and race you would literally have to reach into their brain and make them stop.

Honestly, if I'm assuming someone's gender in a split second I really don't mean anything by it I promise. Like how are you also meant to tell someone is a transphobe or not in the instance you meet them as well? I know that I am not anti trans rights in the slightest and would support a trans person, so by assuming that I am a transphobe, you are missing out. There are still a lot of assholes out there who willingly misunderstand and even hate on trans people.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Student General Artist
:nod:
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2016
Also - Don't assume a person's religion by their online nickname.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2016  Student General Artist
True! :)
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016
Not really kidding. I used to get asked, "Are you a pagan?"
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Student General Artist
Really? Wow.
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016
Some people thought there was a pagan influence with the 'ae'. Truth is I couldn't decide which vowel to use 'gray/grey' so I decided to use both.
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2016  Student General Artist
:)
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PULLAST0RMY Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you, this stamp is perfect. :clap:
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TheArtFrog Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2016  Student General Artist
:D No problem! 
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GigasGhosts Featured By Owner Edited Nov 29, 2016  Student General Artist
usually I'm pretty tolerant of people misgendering me, especially strangers that don't know me well and even friends that are still getting used to using my pronouns. but I don't find misgendering to be a very good excuse online since it's so easy to look at someone's profile and check what pronouns they use unless they're not listed. if that's the case, it's not hard to ask or use they/them pronouns as a default. it's something different when others purposely misgender a trans/nb person, which is a pretty nasty thing to do since they're obviously trying to get a negative reaction out them
also please stop making fun of trans people
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tentacledork Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2017  Student Digital Artist
honestly, i don't like purposely misgendering people either because i can't know who has dysphoria or not. but as a trans person i'm not comfortable with using they/them to really refer to anyone.
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